Rules dating recovering addict
Unlike the other levels, there is no escape at this level.Once I let someone see who I really am, I can no longer convince them otherwise.How has your addiction affected your ability to achieve intimacy on each level?Is there anyone in your life that you have true intimacy with?What level of intimacy do you share with the main people in your life? We call it safe because it involves the exchange of facts and information.There are no feelings, opinions or personal vulnerability involved, and therefore no risk of rejection.
We start taking small risks at this level because we begin to share our own thoughts, opinions and beliefs.At this level we talk about our joys, pain, and failures; our mistakes in the past, our dreams, and our goals; what we like or don’t like; and what makes us who we are.This level is more vulnerable because we can’t change how we feel about something or the details of our past or current experiences. It is the level where we are known at the deepest core of who we are.It is the ability to be emotionally intimate that allows us to feel the deep connections that bring us joy, happiness and a sense of belonging.A number of prominent researchers now believe that addiction is the result of an inability to form attachment relationships, and if recovery from substance use is to be sustainable, then relationships in your life need to be addressed.