With respect to pre-marital, romantically oriented kissing, we’re clearly talking about an area about which reasonable believers can (and do) disagree.
Let me lay out what I view to be applicable biblical principles and passages on this topic.
It is certainly true that no passage of Scripture says — in so many words, at least — “thou shalt not kiss before marriage.” Having said that, I submit that there is a strong argument to be made from Scripture that there is sexual relationship outside of marriage.
The argument becomes clearer when we look at some of what the Bible has to say about 1) sex, 2) our relationships with other believers and 3) sexual immorality itself.
I’ll start by putting my position right on the line: kissing is OK.
We need to address the whole spectrum (“just kissing” included). First, the fact that “romantically oriented” is in italics above is important.
Everyone loves the start of relationships – the so called ‘honeymoon phase’ where new couples can’t keep their hands off each other and the chemistry is electric.
Just try to remember the way those adoring geeks with braces looked at you in high school and how nauseous it made you feel.
Plopping down on his lap and showering him with too many hugs and kisses the first time he is among your family members or friends may make him feel very ill at ease.
For some men, kissing must always be a very private thing, while others are OK with public displays of affection. But the best advice is to take the cues from him, and don’t get more than one step ahead.
Michael Lawrence and other able Boundless authors have written before about the wonderful gift of sex, so I won’t belabor the point except to repeat that the Scripture passages on sex, taken together, make very clear that God instituted sex for purposes of procreation, pleasure, intimacy, holiness and — ultimately — for His glory.
God instituted sex within marriage as part of His design of the family (Genesis ).